There are among us those people who have often suffered in silence a miscarriage or death of a child way too soon. The last two weeks we have grieved with a family that lost a child 4 months into their pregnancy, after enduring a previous miscarriage. As well, this past Sunday the Sanctity of Human Life was celebrated in churches across our country. If you are someone who has grieved the loss of a child, may God use the manuscript of this funeral message for comfort.
Sadie (princess) Lane & Eli James (My God, one who follows)
1 Samuel 1:27-28
- 27 for this child I prayed, and the LORD has granted me my petition which I asked of Him.
Children are a product of God’s work and the Godly parent submits to this and knows that it is a matter of prayer. Submission, by essence of word, implies a lying down of our plans for children. We have no bargaining chips with God, the Godly recognize this and looks to God for direction in the midst of a sin-plagued world. Adversity and tragedy come to the righteous and wicked alike. So why try? God does not owe us life, prosperity, of length of days. Life is a miracle and is a gift of God entrusted to parents for a while. We are alive by grace and another heart beat is God’s grace. We will be held accountable to the gifts entrusted to us (Heb. 9:27)
- 28 Therefore I also have lent him to the LORD; as long as he lives he shall be lent (granted) to the LORD.”
In light of children are only here because of God, we surrender them to God. He designs them, made them, has power over them, and loves them enough to pay a purchase price for them ahead of time. Psalms 139:13-16 For You formed my inward parts;
You covered me in my mother’s womb. 14 I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well.
15 My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret, and skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. 16 Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, the days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them. NKJV This is true for all of us.
In light of such we see the obligation, but what about the pleasure in surrendering? When none of us had the chance to get to know Sadie, God knew her intimately and had more considerations toward her then there are grains of sand. Consider God’s plan of Jeremiah 29:11, Nature. How could this be true when we are deprived of knowing Sadie and Eli and seeing them experience life? Might I add that Steve and Kay have asked that this memorial be offered up to the countless others today in the audience that has suffered miscarriages in silence with a quiet grief. May your grief experience some expression today and perhaps some comfort.
- We trust in God Character and heart. View this with the backdrop of the Cross. God has not chosen these deaths to communicate what he thinks about you. He chose one event and person that was called the Word of God. This Word, this Jesus, died on the cross for us. This puts His love toward us without question and also tells us that we have a God that suffers with us. In fact, it was when Jesus was at the graveside of a friend with his mourning friends that He wept. So today, the body of Christ, Jesus is not here bodily to weep, but we are here as His representatives to weep with us.
- Life in this world is not as always wished by God.
Romans 8:18 For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us. 19 For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the sons of God. 20 For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but because of him who subjected it, in hope 21 that the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to corruption and obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God. 22 For we know that the whole creation has been groaning together in the pains of childbirth until now. 23 And not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies. 24 For in this hope we were saved. Now hope that is seen is not hope. For who hopes for what he sees? 25 But if we hope for what we do not see, we await for it with patience. NKJV As bad as the sufferings are and the pain of losing a child may be, the degree of negative intensity does not even rank in the degree of intensity of joy and glory in the world to come. There will be a day when all that is sad will become untrue. A natural world where babies die before they see the light of day is not God’s ideal world. This is the ideal world to get to God’s Ideal world. Until that time is realized nature and humanity are groaning and waiting for the redemption of our bodies. We live in Hope until then, hope to see the children again. It has been said that “for the believer this world is the closest to hell that they will get and for the unbeliever this world is the closest to heaven that they will get. Sadie and Eli will experience the best this world can offer for the best is a shadow of Heaven while tasting a limited amount of the hell this world has to offer.
- This is not hope disappointed, but hope deferred. Proverbs 13:12 Hope deferred makes the heart sick, But when the desire comes, it is a tree of life. NKJV This verse is interesting considering that the Bible tells us that the tree of life is in heaven. Heaven is the place where every hope is realized. This implies Sadie’s presence is with God for hope to be realized. This is the thought of David in
2 Samuel 12:19-23 When David saw that his servants were whispering, David perceived that the child was dead. Therefore David said to his servants, “Is the child dead?”
And they said, “He is dead.” 20 So David arose from the ground, washed and anointed himself, and changed his clothes; and he went into the house of the LORD and worshiped. Then he went to his own house; and when he requested, they set food before him, and he ate. 21 Then his servants said to him, “What is this that you have done? You fasted and wept for the child while he was alive, but when the child died, you arose and ate food.” 22 And he said, “While the child was alive, I fasted and wept; for I said, ‘Who can tell whether the LORD will be gracious to me, that the child may live?” 23 But now he is dead; why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.” NKJV
Consider also the heart of God toward children expressed in
Matthew 18:10-14 “Take heed that you do not despise one of these little ones, for I say to you that in heaven their angels always see the face of My Father who is in heaven. 11 For the Son of Man has come to save that which was lost.
12 “What do you think? If a man has a hundred sheep, and one of them goes astray, does he not leave the ninety-nine and go to the mountains to seek the one that is straying? 13 And if he should find it, assuredly, I say to you, he rejoices more over that sheep than over the ninety-nine that did not go astray. 14 Even so it is not the will of your Father who is in heaven that one of these little ones should perish.
Therefore, God saves infants solely by grace (Titus 3:5), peculiar because the median is not faith, but extra grace. They are incapable of faith since can’t hear the word (Rom. 10:17). This fits with what we know about God’s grace and love, especially toward infants. Grace is just due to the sacrifice of Jesus, once able to hear the word and understand their need then God holds them responsibility for the knowledge received.
God’s grace is central, for Christ is the center of salvation.
III. So they (could also be “he” for the verb is masculine) worshiped the LORD there.
In light of giving Samuel to the Lord (around 3 years old), they worshiped God for he was in God’s hands for His use. Steve & Kay, family the response of faith is worship for the object of faith is Christ. Worship does not bring attention to the faith of the Walkers, but to the Savior of the Walkers. You have more to give to Jesus (the hope of Sadie and Eli) and the good news is that the shoulders of Jesus can bear the extra load.
If it refers to “he worshiped the Lord there” then this would form a bracket around Hannah’s prayer and 2:11 “the child ministered to the LORD before Eli the priest.” What an amazing thought to apply this interpretation to Sadie & Eli. Sadie & Eli are worshipping the Lord there! Let us join them and the millions who never got to see the light of day on this earth.
For the church, family, and friends:
Give them space to grieve, space to heal.
Remember their loss before them; (let them set the conversation, don’t automatically shut down the subject).
Intercede for them and with them.
Envelopes: as in send them letters.
Volunteer for specific help, pray about it and observe their needs. It’s not whether they take up your offer, but that you offered.